Sometimes we all wonder what another person is really trying to convey under their masked words. It is important to question things in order to reach a fair conclusion that fits our perspective on safety and the way we give out our hearts. Still, when it’s constantly on our minds to question people’s intentions for example: that they might have some maliciousness in what they are saying, even when we know deep within ourselves, that this person loves us and wants the best for us, Perhaps it’s time we look inside of our minds instead of suspecting others – always trying to figure them out, instead of us.
It’s time for introspection: Not everyone we meet or know has a secret plan to ruin our lives. We think this way because someone has hurt us in the past, as we cannot all be saints – but we have the freewill to decide if things are best for us. It does not make us out to be horrible people. We can take our hearts to the grave with us or we can open up our hearts more and say we fully lived with the most open and freeing love anyone can live fiercely with.
“No man chooses evil because it is evil; he only mistakes it for happiness, the good he seeks.”
Mary Shelley
When we take this time to notice how we judge people’s minds we’re really only seeing how we are judging ourselves and the truth of the matter is that it’s our own minds that need renovation.*
- We don’t trust people because we don’t trust ourselves – We are constricting ourselves by the way we are reacting or behaving based on someone’s words. For example Someone says that they love us, we might then question if they actually do, or we don’t believe them. This is constricting our own minds with how we view people and also our hearts on how we view love. This is a limiting way of looking at life – in lack. Which then can take us into self-worth territory. (how we don’t feel worthy because maybe the last person who said this hurt us – so we must not have been worth the effort). Now we can see where the problem lies, and the solution is to change the way we think of things. The solution can lie also in being able to receive with an open heart.
- We must understand the past to navigate through the present + future when it come to trust – The past is not meant to be fully in the present nor future, unless we are taking the elements which will help us grow in loving ways, we can understand the past and the lessons it has shown us, then understand and apply to fit who we want to be – a person with a full embodiment of love, joy, and peace. Would a person with these values always be closed in? Definitely not, maybe cautious, which is normal to be but not letting it dig into our minds enough where it makes a home permanent.
- When we stop trusting people we are only hurting ourselves – To not trust anyone is a lonely feeling, we will allow no one to get close to us again and we will live in a constant state of anxiety and fear – we must break through this to live freely in a higher state emotionally and mentally. Love will lead a path of opportunity, understanding, and compassion for ourselves and others, even if people do us wrong, we have the understanding to take it further that others have their own paths to walk upon and lessons to be learned- These lessons do not need to be looked at in such depth that we conclude that everyone is evil. Instead, we can flip the switch and look at it again, with the eyes of understanding.
Think of this practice as if we have been holding in our breath for so long we forget what it’s like to breathe deeply. Once we stop limiting and constricting ourselves in these ways, we will see a light that has been hidden in the shadows. By no means is it easy to start trusting people, but with time and simple steps, we will see a progression within our lives. Our minds will turn over a new leaf as does autumn and open up our hearts delicately, with patience. This practice will change our lives not only for the better but for the greatest good of living as a human beings can.
Hopefully this has helped clear your mind and begins a new timeline for you, I wish you the best x
Neena
